Exhausted from dating

Everyone can understand why it’s a mistake to do your grocery shopping when you’re starving.

It’s common sense: not only are you guaranteed to make poor and impulsive choices that don’t serve you well, you’ll also probably blow your budget and literally “pay the price later” for your indiscretions.

This is what I call the “dating sweet spot”, and it’s a good indicator of when things are just about to line up for you. We’ve all had our share of drama, breakups, hurt feelings and blown opportunities.

The following six questions will help give you clarity about were you are in the process:1. of it rather than how you can contribute to and love another person. The critical question is: have you processed those events so there is no longer an emotional charge attached to them?

Only low-quality relationships are built on the premise that “as long as I get my needs met, we’ll get along just fine. Have you resolved the issues and, most importantly, learned from them?

Otherwise, I’m out of here.”A real, true, legendary and lifelong love is built on the notion of two people who care deeply, see the best in one another and serve each other’s needs no matter what. Can you think about the partner who cheated on you without getting angry all over again? Bottom line, if you still have unresolved issues from old experiences, it’s important to take the time to process and heal before you bring someone else and their own possibly unresolved issues into the mix. Will you look for what’s wrong or focus on what’s right?

Interestingly, on the whole men are 97 percent more likely to say they’re addicted than women are. They’re 54 percent more likely to feel burned out by their dating lives.

Millennials (of both sexes) were 36 percent more likely to suffer burn out than other generations.

And with so many apps now available, each offering a sleekly designed slip-road onto the modern dating super-highway, it’s easy to feel fatigued.He didn’t see a future for us, not one in which we stayed together, got married one day and had babies. So when something like that happens it feels like your heart is actually breaking. The realistic side of me knew that I would get through it. There are so many mini milestones that you have to hope to get through just to get to the point that you have someone good enough to eat dinner with.I just had to let those feelings happen and run their course. I’m at the point in my life where I really want to have a baby.In a study for Match.com, anthropologist Dr Helen Fisher (whose three TED talks on the neuroscience of love have been watched 15 million times) found that 54% of women currently feel exhausted by modern dating.As foster agency worker Yaa Osei-Asibey, 30, explains: “I’ve been on Tinder for a while now and my general cycle is constant swiping, finally making a match, some good banter and eventually, a meet-up.